Stage 1: Romance. This indicates for you your fan has few or no significant flaws; he or she is a way to obtain sweet joy and elegance. Life appears nearly impossible minus the pair-bond using this other individual. Without your realizing it, these emotions of relationship are, unconsciously, such as a romance-type dependency of child-parent, but they are additionally a unique, unique, peer pair-bond apparently without compare.
Stage 2: Disillusionment (the initial major crisis). Flaws emerge both in of you; some illusions start to harden, other people to disintegrate. Emotional nakedness for the self seems less safe now than the usual or two before year. Metaphorically, you might be Adam and Eve within the yard in the true point of consuming the appleâ€”you become significantly ashamed of who you really are and/or ashamed of the partner, disillusioned by the increased loss of perfection. You start to unconsciously and consciously learn your lover for flaws (and thus does he/she to you).